Today is the 12th anniversary of Facebook.
This makes it the perfect day to discuss the disappearance of 2 people from my friends on Facebook. Let me say that I knew both of these people in person and quite honestly I have no idea why either of them decided to unfriend me.
Unlike other posts, I will not disguise their names as I feel it is better to expose them for what they are rather than protect them. People who leave without any explanation don’t deserve any protection as far as I am concerned.
First up is Norma Jean. I have known her for over 30 years, actually since junior high school. I was never overly friendly with Norma Jean as we had different circles of friends. My friends were a cross section of jocks and smart people for the most part. Her friends were more of the lower class bunch. She hung around the bullies and troublemakers.
For the most part, I tried hard to stay away from these people as they were always getting into trouble and most had nothing to do with me. Unfortunately, there were a couple of times where I ended up in classes with some of these lower lives along with Norma Jean herself.
After high school, I (thankfully) lost track of everyone from my graduation class. When I came onto Facebook in mid-2006, Norma Jean became one of the early people who wished to friend me. Reluctantly, I accepted her friend request as I thought that after so many years, people would have changed and matured, but with people like her, I was mistaken.
While I did have a couple of online comment sessions with her, I always felt that she really was not interested in anything I said. So I believe out of boredom, she decided to unfriend me. A few months later, I confronted her online in a mutual friend’s post as to why she unfriended me. She seemed to blow it off and didn’t give me an answer. Apparently, she has not changed in over 30 years. I have declined to friend a couple of people from high school as I felt that those people would unfriend me as well because they were part of the same bullying group.
However, the most bizarre unfriending happened over the past week, with my now apparent former friend Bridget. She and I became friends while we both worked at Staples.
During her time at Staples, it was apparent that Bridget had social problems. She never really seemed to get along with many of the associates, managers and most importantly the customers. It was this type of attitude that made her be called into the manager’s office for one of their “little talks”. These talks never really seemed to help and she seemed to always get a little meaner and ruder with each passing day.
I am not saying that she overall was a bad person; we always seemed to get along as we both had similar feelings toward people in general. She always seemed like a rollercoaster of emotions, one minute happy the next angry and the following giggly. Overall, she was rude to people as she did not seem to have the words “please” or “thank you” in her vocabulary.
I think this type of disrespect has more to do with her upbringing, sort of like how Norma Jean treated me. Unfortunately this type of rudeness continued when she became one of the earliest people to friend me on Facebook.
Rarely did I ever make a comment to any of her postings, but when I did I was either ignored or never acknowledged for it. For someone who was a friend of mine at work, I really thought that she would have a little more respect, but apparently I was very wrong.
Everything seemed to be fine, up until this last week when surprisingly decided to unfriend me. I have absolutely no idea why she unfriended me as I have not had any conversations with her online in weeks. So this was certainly a headscratcher at best.
I will probably never find out the true reason why either of these women unfriended me, but all indications point to the fact that both shared a common rudeness, which is not the type of indication of what a real friend is.
Overall, let me point out that I found out about these people unfriending me by using a plugin to the Chrome browser (also available for Firefox as well). Without using a tool like this, both of these women could have remained anonymous in their unfriending of me.
But in the world of the internet, you can run but can never hide.
Maybe both of these rude people should go and hide forever if they have no respect for me anymore.